Losing weight isn’t easy

So it’s has been a little bit over a month since my last post. Something that I have learned is Working out with kids is not as easy as I though. I have found that my daughter seems to think that when I work out, that is a perfect time to beg for attention and climb all over mom. I have been working at losing weight I started at 198 and I am now down 10 pounds. I am not losing the weight as fast as I would like but I’m hoping this Minnesota winter finally end soon and LP and I can go on walks again.


Things I have noticed since started my weight lose goal.

Ever since I started eating more healthy I have noticed:

  • I am not as hungry
  •  when I am craving a snack, I crave fruits or Veggies.
  • I have more energy
  • I am happier
  • I feel better about the way I look


  • I drink a glass of water with one freshly Squeezed Lemon in it every day in the morning. I have noticed this helps keeps my cravings at bay
  • When I am waiting for something I do squats, butt kicks or lunges. I do it at work (I make sure no one is around), while I do dishes, folding laundry. If I can do it I do it.
  • I take the stairs every time
  • I dance. I turn on the radio and just dance. It makes you feel good and it’s exercise.
  • When I want to snack I reach for carrots

How are you doing with your weight lose goal? Comment below and let me know.

Happy spring 🙂

How This Mama Got Her Groove Back!

It is the heart of winter and I am already dreading swim suit season! Loosing weight after LP was born was not as easy as I thought it was going to be. It has been almost three years since my Little Pumpkin entered this world and I have not lost the weight.  So I decided to change things.

Back Story

Before I got married I weighted 180 pounds

Before wedding

September 2009

The winter before my wedding (December of 2009) I decided to look the best I have ever looked for my wedding (I have always been the bigger girl growing up). So I buckled down and started eating right. Whole grain everything, healthy snacks, no pop and one cheat day. Once I got that down I joined a gym. I started working out once a week, after two weeks twice a week, after another two weeks three times a week until I was going four times a week. Through out the day I would find ways to work out. Squats while folding laundry, taking the stairs instead of the elevator things like that.

I lost 40 pounds by doing all of this by my wedding (July 2010)


The week before my wedding July 2009

So I decided I am going to get back to my past glory and get back to the weight I was on my wedding day 140 pounds. I have already switched my diet back to how I should be eating, so now it’s time to start working out.

Things have changed since I lost the weight the first time. I have no free time and I have a kid now. Solution: I quit the gym I was going to once a month and bought an elliptical, a yoga tDVD and “30 Day Shred” with Jillian Michaels DVD.

I have decided to bring you along for my journey and if you would like to join me Comment your progress in the comments on my blog posts and follow my daily routines on my Facebook Page  Letjoy Cloth Diapers.

Happy Work out 🙂

2013 in review. Thank you to all my followers!

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Mom I Need to Use the Potty….Never MInd

So here in the Letjoy home we have said good bye cloth diapers hello underwear. At least that’s what I thought. LP has been great she can go all day with out an accident, that is until we venture out of the home.

Last week we were hanging out in the back yard and LP went to explore our fenced in yard. I was gardening and I realized it had been a little too quiet. I looked up just in time to see my sweet little two year old “popping a squat” and taking a nice big poop next to the fence (sorry to the neighbor lady behind us). “LP” I say “why didn’t you tell me you needed to go poop poop?” All I could do is smile and take her inside to clean her up.

LP has done great with trips to the store. Before we leave she sits on the potty. When we get to the store we go straight to the bathroom for good measure and again before we leave for home. Than one day it all went to hell. Lp was peeing on the floor, pooping in he pants and throwing temper tantrums when ever asked if she would sit on the potty. Where did my potty trained child go!? Being the stubborn person that I am I was not about to unpack the cloth diapers and start all over! My solution go back to the beginning.  I ask LP to sit on the potty every half hour, I let her run naked so that she doesn’t feel the comfort of something “catching” her poop or pee (this does not mean there hasn’t been some accidents on the floor but lucky for me she now tells me where they are rather than me stepping in it or having to try and find where the smell is coming from. Thank God.) Slowly but surly we are getting back to where we were at before she decided she didn’t want to be potty trained.  

well I will update you later people of the internet


happy potty trainingImage

When Life Hands You Lemons

So months ago I wrote a post about Postpartum Anxiety . I later came to find out I also had Postpartum depression. I know expectant mothers hear about what to look for after baby to know if they have postpartum depression but no one ever lets you know how hard it is and how hard it is to get over. I have had depression since I can remember. I would go to my mother so overwhelmed (really why would a 5-year-old be overwhelmed with life) and I would just cry in her arms. She would ask me “why are you crying?” and I would respond to her between sobs “I don’t know”.  So when I became pregnant I was very worried that since I already had depression that I would get Postpartum and well I did. Now a lot of things could have led to my postpartum depression other than just my existing depression because a lot of moms who suffer from depression may never get postpartum depression.

A month before I found out I was pregnant my mom died suddenly and unexpectedly. (Yeah that sucked and still does) So I started out my pregnancy grieving the lost of a parent plus all those fantastic hormone changes you go through and the mood swings, it was far from what I had imagined pregnancy to be. When my daughter was three months old my milk supply started to go down( another thing I thought would be wonderful and rewarding) sending me deeper in to my depression (since I was not medicated and only in therapy), I did everything in my power over the next few month to try to get my supply up. I nursed and then pumped every night at 2am which would span over an hour. I pumped at work every three hours, I would come home nurse my baby and follow-up with pumping . I used the supplement nursing system to make sure my baby was getting enough to eat and to stimulate my body to produce more milk. I went to the lactation consultant once a week for two months. Finally when my daughter was five months and my supply was all but gone I gave up, even though I knew I did everything in my power to continue nursing this was devastating to me, I felt I had failed my daughter.  Then I lost my job.

I was a sinking ship and I was sinking fast. I thought I was going crazy. I finally got on meds, which I hated! I didn’t care about anything but after months of therapy and taking meds I was able to ween off of it all over time.

So now I am Postpartum free according to my doctor. So why don’t I feel like it.  I think it has something to do with last October (2012) when  I got sick. The first couple days I felt crummy and when I took my temp I was surprised to see it was at 104 degrees. I didn’t feel that sick so the next morning I went to see our family doctor. I had tonsillitis, she gave me meds and sent me home. That night my daughter spent the night at grandma and grandpa’s (thank God) so I could sleep and get better. By 10pm I knew something was way wrong I was on these meds but I was only getting worse. I couldn’t walk with out hugging the wall, and I could hardly stay awake. So I called my husband at his night job and told him I had to go in, he called his dad and had him take me in since he was the only one at work that night. My Father in law came to pick me up and he knew right away something was wrong. He took me in to urgent care and that doctor said the same as my family doctor and sent me home. At  1am my husband found me standing in our daughters closet, at 8 am I had a seizure and was rushed to the hospital. My tonsillitis had turned in to bacterial meningitis that was starting to affect my frontal lobe of my brain.

This brings me to why I may never feel like myself  like I did pre-postpartum. It’s a hard thing to realize and accept but this Oct I will know if I have permanent brain damage. The closer it gets, the more nervous I am getting. Mainly because there are lots of things as a result to my illness that still have not gone away. Memory loss, a lot of memories that were right before October 2012 I do not remember at all and those are gone forever but worse yet I forget things that should be in my long-term memory things I have learned in the past, events that I have gone to. I can’t retain accurate information.  I don’t respond to things appropriately, I will respond to things that a normal person would think but know better than to say, this has only gotten me in trouble once and embarrassed me many times. I am not motivated as I use to be. I have to make my self to do daily tasks, laundry, dishes, picking up. While taking care of my daughter is not a worry (short-term memory is in healthy working order) I worry I will always feel like this.  I also worry that when I get older this will affect my elderly years.  Scary thoughts but I won’t know until I get scanned in Oct.  Let’s hope all is well.

Live  Healthy 🙂


Mama Drama

So I have been a part of some facebook groups and like any mom knows who is a part of some group on facebook there is always some moms who make drama on the pages. Whether they are doing it on purpose of it’s just their nature I just don’t get it. If you don’t like the group you are a part of then leave it. do go on to other boards bitching about other members or telling people what a bad group it is. Leave the group. no one is forcing you to be apart of the group. “but Letjoy, I don’t like somethings about the group but other parts/members I really do like.” Great! good for you for finding the positive, but then stop bitching. You are a grownup and with that comes stresses that really do matter in life. Why add to that with some FB mama drama. Moms have enough to stress about, we don’t need to add to that with some stupid high school shit. haaaaa I feel much better, thank you for reading my rank.

happy living 🙂

What Kind of Parent Am I?

So I have been seeing a lot of post about attachment Parenting on my Facebook feed lately (can you tell what kind of facebook friends I have). While I like to think I am a natural parenting kinda gal. I know I am not an attachment type of parent. Don’t get me wrong I have friends who practice that style of parenting but it’s just not for me. I got to thinking what kind of parenting style do I practice?

So I hit the internet to find my parenting style. I read Blogs, took parenting style test and looked up definitions. This is what I found:

Turns out I am not just one parenting style. I am a mix. but my main foundation for my parenting style is Authoriative parenting.

Authoritative Parenting

Authoritative parents, also called ‘balanced’ parents, establish rules and guidelines, and children are expected to follow along. However, these parents are usually more responsive to their kids and more willing to listen to questions and negotiate. They are distinct from Authoritarian moms and dads as they’re more forgiving and nurturing, particularly when their children fail to follow the rules or meet their expectations.

The result? Children of Authoritative parents are the happiest, most capable and successful of the bunch!

I knew I was an authoritative parent in fact I knew before I had kids (thank you college psych classes). I wanted to know what modern day style I was, I mean there are so many styles: attachment parenting, crunchy, silky, tiger, emotional coaching parents. I mean the list goes on, but which one was I? So to find out I had to look up some definitions.

Emotion Coaching

“Come sit with me and we’ll talk about

how you’re feeling right now.”

Emotion Coaching parents value sharing emotional times

with their children.

To Emotion Coach, parents need to use empathy. Specifically,

these parents try to put themselves into their child’s shoes.

They show an understanding of their children’s emotions and

Guide them in their behavior. Emotion Coaching creates a

foundation for strong, healthy, trusting relationships.

Emotion Coaching takes practice. Every emotional event is

different and Emotion Coaching needs to be flexible. None of

us can do it all the time, but the more we can take the time to

help children work through their emotions, the better.

Children with Emotion Coaching Parents tend to …

Learn that feelings are important and can be trusted.

Learn how to name certain feelings and begin to understand

why they feel the way they do.

Learn that they are not alone with their feelings, and that they

can bring their wide range of emotions to their parents with

confidence they will beloved and comforted.

Learn that all feelings they experience are OK, but not all of

their behaviors are OK.

Learn how to solve the problems life brings.

Learn to calm themselves down when they have strong

Emotions so they can concentrate better at school.

Learn about their own feelings and the feelings of others,

which helps them form strong friendships.

Tiger Parenting

a strict or demanding mother who pushes her children to high levels of achievement, using methods regarded as typical of child rearing in China and other parts of East Asia

Crunchy Parenting

Mother who supports homebirth, breastfeeding, baby wearing, cloth diapering, co-sleeping, gentle discipline, etc. One who questions established medical authority; tends to be vegetarian and/or prepare all-organic foods. See crunchy and hippie.


Silky Parenting

Modern mother who prefers medicated hospital birth, bottle feeding/part time breastfeeding, disposable diapers, crib sleeping, etc. One who follows the advice of established medical authority; often tend to be working moms who rely on modern products for convenience and time management.


So I definitely am an emotional coach parenting style in fact while reading that I kept thinking I so do that on every point in the description

But I knew that wasn’t all  to my style of parenting and came a cross the term Scrunchy parenting

Scrunchy Parenting

A mix of silky parenting and Crunchy parenting

So that’s what I am a Authoritative, emotional coaching, Scrunchy mom. Leave a comment and tell me what you are.


Happy Parenting 🙂



Gay Rights or Human Rights

Let me just start this post off by saying I am Pro gay rights. Now let me tell you the back story of why I am.

Growing up my parents always taught me to treat people how you want to be treated no matter who they are.  As I grew up I really never thought about that topic, I grew up in a small town and everyone knew everyone pretty much. When I became a teen I experienced something I had never before. My mother was a Brazilian native and  a very active member of our town. She was a teacher full-time teaching English as a second langue and she worked at the local YMCA after school hours. One day after school I drove to the YMCA to see my mom for something (probably to get money for something but I don’t recall). As I walked up my mom was standing out side with two little boys about 10ish. My mom told me how the two boys had trashed the bathroom and we suspended from the YMCA for a week and she was waiting with the boys for their mom to pick them up and to talk to her about it. Soon the mom showed up and I stood off to the side to give my mother and the lady some privacy to talk. Soon the lady was demanding to talk to the person in charge, my mom informed her that she was in charge that day, this lady then started to yell at my mom about how she didn’t know anything because she (my mother) was a stupid spic. I will never for get how that made me feel, for someone to thing it is ok to treat someone like that just because they are different I knew from that moment that I would always treat others with respect no matter their skin color, beliefs, or sex orientation.

In my life I have had gay people in my life, the first person I ever knew who was openly gay was my oldest sisters roommate and friend. He would visit with my sister when she came home and he soon became a good family friend. When I moved to the cities (Minneapolis, st Paul  I soon became friends with many new people including a few gay people. fast forward to when I was 25 years old. My mother told me that when her first husband died her best friend at the time (a gay man) was so concerned about my mom and my older sisters well-being that he offered to marry my mom and take care of them (at those times that was the only way for a gay man to have a family). My mom although she appreciated his offer declined. months later while my mom was visiting friends and family in Brazil became sick and I went to Brazil to see her and be with her at her death-bed. While in Brazil I discovered that my grandfather the man who raised my mother was not my bio grandpa. I guess my grandmother left my grandfather while she was pregnant with my mother. Her employer (a gay man) offered to let my grandma live with him and he would support her and her unborn child as long as he could raise the baby as his own because he had always wanted a child. My mom loved her father I am not sure if she knew growing up of her “father” and mothers arrangement but as an adult she knew and it didn’t matter, he was dad, and he was my grandpa. My husband’s brother is a gay man and lives with is partner and have a very normal marriage (even though it’s not legal in Minnesota I say they are married). I am happy that my children will grow up being exposed to a non traditional family, it makes me proud to have such wonderful people in my family both my brothers in law and my grandfather, because really defining them as gay men comes short of who they are.

With all this talk on gay right this week I can’t help but share my views on the topic. It’s not gay rights at all it human rights in my book. All americans should have the same rights. No matter if you are a man, a women, black or white. It doesn’t matter everyone legal has to be treated the same (not saying that short falls don’t happen). So why does this not include who we marry. I could not imagine a world where I could not marry my husband a man who I love with my whole heart and soul. So I don’t thing it’s fair that others can’t. Not so long ago blacks could not marry whites you tell kids that now and they are so confused on what the issue was back then on that topic because blacks and whites are now equal. I hope someday my grand children will look at the topic of gay marriage in their history books and think “what was the big deal, why couldn’t they get married?”

While I am respectful of people’s beliefs and views this is one topic I will not budge.

I have heard it all:

  • “It says in the bible that’s its wrong”  yeah well so is mixing fibers when you wear them (cotton and polyester for example) in fact pretty sure those two topics are addressed in the same section. in the bible. I think if God is all knowing and all forgiving why would god not want two good people who love each other  not to be together.
  • “Making gay marriage legal will affect my child” really this is so weak, you can’t make someone gay you are born that way, knowing that gay people can be married is not going to fuck up your child. I’m fine and I have had some very good men who happen to be gay in my life as a child.
  • And the one I hate the most of all ” If gay people can get married next people who want to marry an animal will have an argument to make it legal.” OK first fuck you and second you are comparing two consenting adult human beings and an animal. That there makes you a horrible person if you think that way.

Gay people are just that People, And no person should feel like a second class citizen because of their class, skin color, sex, or sexual orientation.

Well that was my rant on the subject and thank you for taking the time to read it.\

Happy equal rights for all 🙂

To Eat or Not to Eat that is the Question

Little Pumpkin

Remember the days when your baby would cry and you would know they needed one of the following : diaper change, burping, or the boob. Now that LP is a toddler she is always begging for snacks. Always “food?”, Soon followed by a temper tantrum when the answer is no; But how do you know if your toddler is really hungry or just wants to snack.

For Toddlers ( ages 1-3)

Daily calories needed: 1,200-1,400

With toddlers when they are eating lunch or dinner and they tell you that they are full and they have eaten a good amount of food on the plate trust them they know. It’s natural for a toddlers appetite to change day-to-day. one day they may want to eat everything on the plate the next not so much. Research done at the University of California, San Francisco, Up to 85 percent of parents say don’t listen to their kids when they say they are full and push them to eat more (‘two more bites”) , giving them praise for having a couple more bites. This could lead to your child eating when they aren’t hungry. As a child I remember going to my grand parents house for dinner and we weren’t allowed to leave the table until out plates were clean, making us apart of the exclusive “clean plate club”. As an adult I still struggle listening to my body when I am full and not feel like I have to finish everything on my plate. Talk about your classical conditioning. So when I became a parent I knew from the beginning that clean plate would not be a requirement in my childrens lives.  Don’t get me wrong if my kid takes two bites and says All done I know the last time she at was a snack at 2 and it is now 6pm she is hungry, but if she eats most of whats on her plate yeah I’ll listen and tall her good job. If your full you are full no sweets after dinner (fruit, apple sauce, cookies, ect….).  A study done at the University of Pennsylvania found that many over weight 5 to 12 year olds aren’t receptive to their own hunger cues. Helping your child to stay aware whether they are hungry or full may go a long way to prevent obesity.

At lunch time LP eats in the living room at the coffee table with her Little chair. We don’t do this because she wants to watch tv but because she is a toddler and it’s the middle of the day. she will eat a little see a toy she wants to play with then go back to her food and eat some more. Didn’t you know toddlers have busy schedules mid day lot’s of playing to fit in before that nap. so with a PB&J sandwich and some fruit and carrot sticks that gives LP to eat food that wont get cold and still taste good even though she is grazing. As time has gone by doing this I have noticed that LP will spend more and more time eating at one time and taking fewer and fewer play breaks. While this is happening she is learning to sit at the table and eat so when we go places (friends and familys houses for dinner, Restaurants) I have noticed she isn’t as fussy to stay at the table and eat.

At Dinner I do strap her in to the high chair for a few reasons. At the tail end of cooking dinner the house is filled with yummy smells and this kicks LP hunger in high gear resulting her at my feet begging for food. So I strap her in to the high chair and hive her a coloring book with some crayons. This way she knows that I am not ignoring her request and that food is coming soon. She gets to distract herself from the hunger with an activity , and I know she isn’t going to color on the walls or wood floors so I can concentrate on dinner. Finally the high chair is at the same level as the dinning room table so we can eat as a family and she can feel apart of it.

Kids can’t tell time so sticking to a schedule is important we keep meals and snacks about three hours apart. Breakfast at 6:30am ( know she is a early riser) a Healthy snack at 9:30 Lunch at 12:30 followed by a nap, a sweets snack (cookies, fruit snacks) at 3:30 and dinner a little after 6pm. We never really have problems with LP napping because she knows that after lunch comes a nap. keeping your kids on a schedule not only keeps your kid at a healthy by “normalizing hunger, but it helps them to know whats coming next in the day giving them a sense of security.

I know every parent has tried it but giving food as a bribe is a no no. Example: Lp was upset a toy had been taken from her from one of her little friends. She was mad! so she decided to throw a temper tantrum. Hubbys solution. He offers her food because he know thats the fail safe no matter what LP will be happy if you give her food. She is a eater what can I say. When I heard him offer her a treat. I said A. you are rewarding her for throwing a TT. And B. that could lead to emotional eating. He laughed at me “emotional eating?!”. He thought I was off my rocker. “She is two.” he said. Then My friend and I explained that emotional eating is psychological and if when she is disappointed as a child and you give her food to make her feel better, as an adult she will eat when she is upset. A lot of parents use food as reward and or trying to get their kid to do something they want for food. when you do this you are sending the wrong message about food. While some parents do this from time to time for short periods claim success it’s no good to use it in excess.

Bribing your kids to eat veggies is no good as well. toddlers tastes change a lot. one week LP loves cooked carrots the next she wont touch them. just because they don’t want to eat it doesn’t mean you should try to make them eat it, they will probably eat it next week and hate something else. being mindful of what your kid doesn’t want to eat week to week and just giving a different veggie they will eat will save you from wasting food and from tears (yours and your little one 🙂 )

Well I hope this helps you on this crazy adventure we call parenting. If you have more questions, or any feed back about this post  please feel free to leave a comment I love getting feed back from my readers.

Happy parenting! 🙂

Fifth disease

Right now in our home we are battling Fifths Disease. I know it sounds horrible but it’s not as bad as it sounds. At first my mommy friends and I thought it was the same as hand, foot and mouth. Although they are similar they are not the same.

Fifths Disease

The disease is also referred to as slapped cheek syndromeslap cheekslap face or slapped face. The Fifth Disease starts with a low-grade fever, headache, and cold like symptoms, such as a runny or stuffy nose. These symptoms pass, then a few days later the rash appears. The bright red rash most commonly appears in the face. Cheeks are a defining symptom of the infection in children (hence the name “slapped cheek disease”). Occasionally the rash will extend over the bridge of the nose or around the mouth. In addition to red cheeks, children often develop a red, lacy rash on the rest of the body, with the upper arms, torso, and legs being the most common locations. The rash typically lasts a couple of days and may itch; some cases have been known to last for several weeks. Patients are usually no longer infectious once the rash has appeared. Teenagers and adults may present with a self-limited arthritis. It manifests in painful swelling of the joints that feels similar to arthritis. Older children and adults with fifth disease may have difficulty in walking and in bending joints such as wrists, knees, ankles, fingers, and shoulders.

Fifth disease is transmitted primarily by respiratory secretions (saliva, mucus, etc.) but can also be spread by contact with infected blood. The incubation period (the time between the initial infection and the onset of symptoms) is usually between 4 and 21 days. Individuals with fifth disease are most infectious before the onset of symptoms. Typically, school children, day-care workers, teachers and mothers are most likely to be exposed to the virus. When symptoms are evident, there is little risk of transmission; therefore, symptomatic individuals need not be isolated.
Any age may be affected although it is most common in children aged five to fifteen years. By the time adulthood is reached about half the population will have become immune following infection at some time in their past.Outbreaks can arise especially in nursery schools, preschools, and elementary schools.

So Not only is LP battling this rash all over her body but hubby and I have it also. My knee has been killing me the last three weeks and hubbys shoulder has been killing him.

A friend of mine that is learning about essential Oils mixed up a concoction and brought it right over .

Thieves Oil,  purification Oil, lavender Oil, and Coconut Oil We put it on Lps foot every diaper change so every hour and a half on the bottom of her foot, and in one day the rash is so much better!  So I went to a talk about  essential oils and what they can do. I am for sure a believer! I have used essential oils in cleaning products but never for medical uses. I will now!

That’s all for now I need to get up and walking because my knee is really starting to hurt.

Happy parenting

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