P is for Poop and Potty


With all this talk about Elimination Communication and Infant Potty Training this got me thinking about LP and preparing for her to potty training. I like to do things in steps, not push for things all at once. When step one seems to be down then move to step two and so on. That’s what we have done for all the weaning that has happened in our house (bottle and Nuk) so I thought why not the potty to.

My action plan.

Step One: Get to Know the Potty.

I have been watching LP for signs that she maybe getting ready to poop. This is easy since she stops and starts to grunt like she is pushing. I stop what I am doing ask her “Do you need to go poop?” and take her to the bathroom and put her on the toilet. Sometimes she poops sometimes she pees and sometimes she doesn’t do anything. The point on this step is to get her to associate the bathroom/ toilet with going poop and pee. I do not expect her to go potty in the toilet and tell me when she needs to go, I just want her to learn what the toilet and associate it with the feelings she gets when she needs to go potty is used for.

Step Two: Get Your Own Potty

After LP has learned that a toilet is for going potty than we will get her own special potty seat, with steps. This will make her excited to go potty on her own and tell me when she needs to go potty (at least that is what I am hoping)

Step Three: Big Girl Underwear During the Day

When LP has gotten the potty down and is constantly letting me know when she needs to go potty then I will take her to the store and together we will buy big girl underwear.  I’ll let her pick out (as much as a small child can) what she wants so that she wont want to mess her new underwear up. again reinforcing her to use the potty.

Step Four: NO MORE DIAPERS!

I think the title speaks for its self. watch her ques and slowly get ride of diapers all together.

No I know LP is only a year and I am by no means expecting her to get these steps done anytime soon. I am on step one and I want her to get comfortable with the idea of using the potty and getting to know it. she is much to young to know to hold it until she gets to the potty. I am just trying to make her associate that sensation she feels right before she goes potty with the toilet. I am not pushing her and I am following her ques. i don’t want her to feel ashamed for going potty in her diaper and not the potty (at any step) I don’t believe in making kids think poop is bad or shameful just that everything has a place and it’s good to put them where they belong.

(Photo Credit: SMHerrick Photography)

We are currently on day two of step one and so far LP has pooped once and peed once in the toilet which was more than I expected.  By no means am I a professional but maybe you can follow the method I have chosen for my Little One and if you think it’s right for your child maybe you can try it. and Let me know how it goes.

I would love to hear how the rest of you with older children Potty trained them! leave a comment on how you did it. Plans can always be improved 🙂

Happy Parenting 🙂

Oak Tree Arts Brunette Mustache Teether with Taggie Crinkle Goatee Review and Giveaway (ends 5/3/12)


The Facts

  • Made of all natural wood, solid non-splintering walnut.
  • The detachable crinkle goatee, attached with loops of elastic, lets your child play with the tags while relieving their sore gums. It is also great for catching all that extra drool.
  • The goatee can easily be thrown into the wash with the rest of baby’s delicate stuff.
  • The walnut has a light coat of food-safe mineral oil to condition the wood.
  • The wood teether can be cleaned with light soap and water then air dried
  • The beeswax that is coated on the teether is from Maple Grove, MN so it is locally sourced. She melts it down and mix it with food safe mineral oil to make the finish.

What I Liked

  • This Teether is so fun. It not only makes a great teether but also a great toy. So when Baby gets all her teeth in she can still use the teether as a toy.
  • It’s all natural
  • The detachable Goatee is great for fun but also catches all that drool that comes with teething. And if given as a gift before baby is even teething. Baby will have a great time with the goatee un til she is ready for the wood mustache.

What I didn’t Like

What is there not to like! This is a great product and I mean besides baby banging the wood mustache on things (which babies do with everything they get their little hands on) this is a product that I would defiantly recommend for any baby!

Summery

This product is great and  I would defiantly recommend this product. The shop owner is friendly and very helpful. Her business Oak Tree Arts is based out of the Twin cities and she tries to get her supplies locally also which is great!  She not only has teethers but a lot of other wood products nursing necklaces, knife holders, toys and you can find all these things on her etsy shop! And if you want more she even has her own website! www.oaktreearts.com.

I give this product Five out of Five stars!

Giveaways

Oak Tree Arts is giving one teether away! (same as pictured above) Now all you have to do is go and enter to win on the Letjoy Facebook Page

Wait You Don’t Use Diapers?


Elimination Communication is something that mothers are talking about these days. What is it? Who started it? Why do it? Are those people crazy? All valid questions so I went digging. My first thoughts on the subject before I did some research was that’s too much work for me I am not that crunchy. I thought it was people trying to potty train their baby’s at a ridiculously early age. Not so. Here is some information I found on the subject. (source: Wikipedia)

Elimination communication (EC) is a toilet training practice in which a caregiver uses timing, signals, cues, and intuition to address an infant’s need to eliminate waste. Caregivers try to recognize and respond to babies’ bodily needs and enable them to urinate and defecate in an appropriate place (e.g. a toilet). Caregivers either use diapers (nappies) as a back-up in case of misses, avoid the use of them altogether, or do a mixture of the two. EC emphasizes communication between the caregiver and child, helping them both become more attuned to the child’s innate rhythms and control of urination and defecation. The practice can be done full time, part time, or just occasionally. The term “elimination communication” was inspired by traditional practices of diaper-less baby care in less industrialized countries and hunter-gatherer cultures.[1] Some practitioners of EC begin soon after birth, the optimum window being zero to four months[2], although it can be started with babies of any age.

The terms elimination communication and natural infant hygiene were coined by Ingrid Bauer and are used interchangeably in her book, Diaper Free! The Gentle Wisdom of Natural Infant Hygiene (2001). Bauer had traveled to India and Africa, where she noticed that most mothers would carry their diaperless babies constantly, yet she saw no elimination “accidents” as would be expected in industrialized countries where babies wear diapers almost continuously from birth. Subsequently, she raised her own children with minimal use of diapers, and eventually began to share her approach with other mothers and caregivers — initially through Internet-based parenting support groups and eventually through her book and website.[3]

Prior publications introducing Western parents to this ancient practice include the booklet Conscious Toilet Training, by Laurie Boucke (1979), book Trickle Treat: Diaperless Infant Toilet Training Method, by Laurie Boucke (1991), a pamphlet entitled Elimination Timing, by Natec (1994), and the more extensive Infant Potty Training: A Gentle and Primeval Method Adapted to Modern Living, by Laurie Boucke (2000). Boucke was influenced by an Indian friend who taught her how mothers in India care for babies without diapers, and she adapted it to fit her Western lifestyle. Boucke later co-produced an in-depth DVD entitled Potty Whispering: The Gentle Practice of Infant Potty Training (2006) and co-authored articles for medical journals.[4]

While the terms elimination communication and infant potty training have become synonymous, many caregivers who practice EC do not consider it to be a form of “training,” per se. EC is viewed primarily as a way to meet the baby’s present needs and to enhance attachment and communication in general. In that sense, EC is often likened to breastfeeding. “Toilet mastery is, of course, an inevitable consequence,” writes Bauer, “Yet it’s no more the goal of Natural Infant Hygiene than weaning is the goal of breastfeeding.” (2001, p. 217)

Today, one often hears the terms natural infant hygiene, infant potty training, “nappy free” and “elimination communication” used synonymously.

The main components of EC are timing, signals, cueing, and intuition.

Timing

Timing refers to identifying the infant’s natural timing of elimination. Newborns tend to urinate every 10–20 minutes, sometimes very regularly, which makes timing extremely useful. Older babies may still be very regular, or may vary in timing based on when they have last eaten or slept. As infants get older, the time between eliminations will increase. By six months, it is not uncommon for babies to go an hour or more without urinating while awake (babies, like adults, rarely urinate during a deep sleep). Timing varies radically for defecation, as some infants may have several bowel movements a day, while others may only have one every few days. Parents report that some babies as young as three months will appear to hold all their bowel movements until they are held in a particular squat position, as long as this is offered regularly enough. [11] Parents also offer the potty at various times according to routine, e.g. after a feed, after waking, just before bath or bed. [12] In the west, infant potty training historically relied on timing as the main method of training. [13] [14]

Signals

Signals are the baby’s way of informing a caregiver of an elimination need. Some babies signal very clearly from the beginning, while others may have very subtle signals, or no signal at all. These signals vary widely from one infant to another, and include a certain facial expression, a particular cry, squirming, a sudden unexplained fussiness, as well as others. Signals are most effectively observed without diapers for the first couple of weeks of starting elimination communication[15]. Babies who are nursing will often start delatching and relatching repeatedly when they need to eliminate. For defecation, many babies will grunt or pass gas as a signal. As babies get older their signals become more conscious and babies often point to, or look at, a caregiver or potty to indicate need. Older babies can learn a gesture or baby sign for “potty”. Later they may learn a word as part of their early acquisition of language.[16][17]

Cueing

Cueing consists of the caregiver making a particular sound or other cue when the baby is in an appropriate place to urinate or defecate, in order to develop two-way communication. At first, the caregiver can make the cueing sound when the baby is eliminating, to develop an association. Once the association is established, the cue can be used to indicate to the baby that he or she is in an appropriate potty place. This is especially useful for infants who may not recognize public toilets or unfamiliar receptacles as a “potty.” Common sound cues include “psss psss” for urination, and “hmm hmm” (grunting) for defecation. Older babies (late starters) may respond better to more word-like cues. Cues do not have to be auditory; the act of sitting on the potty itself can serve as a cue, or the sign language for “toilet” can be a cue. The American Sign Language sign for “toilet” involves forming a hand into the letter “T” (a fist with the thumb inserted between the first and middle fingers) and shaking the hand side to side from the wrist. [18]

 Intuition

Intuition refers to a caregiver’s unprompted thought that the baby may need to eliminate. Although much intuition may simply be subconscious awareness of timing or signals, many parents who practice EC find it an extremely reliable component.

After Reading this I realized that Elimination Communication isn’t about early potty training its a choice in the diaper world. Just like cloth vs disposable we now have moms choosing to go way natural, and thats great!

I asked a mom named Ellee Owen who does EC part time with her Beautiful daughter.

This is what she had to say:

  • Letjoy

    • What made you decided to give EC a try?

  • Ellee Owen

    • I had heard a little bit about it through various blogs.. and one day as Brynnley was sitting in the bumbo clearly pooping I thought why NOT put her on the toilet? One less dirty diaper to wash. Once I started watching her, it just seemed kind of natural.

  • Letjoy

    • I get you can tell when she is pooping but how do you know when she is peeing?

  • Ellee Owen

    • She makes a weird face… and kind of stops what shes doing for a second. I’m not the best at catching her but when I do she LOVES going on her potty. Last night I missed though and she peed all over her floor and started clapping..it was pretty cute

  • Letjoy

    • Do you use a “potty” or just hold her over the toliet?

  • Ellee Owen

    • We started on the toilet and just recently bought her a little frog potty that she is in LOVE with. She will just sit there and clap.

  • Letjoy

    • How long have you been doing EC? What age did you start your daughter on it.

  • Ellee Owen

    • I don’t even remember..maybe when she was 2 or 3 months? So we’ve been doing it for about 6 months?

  • Letjoy

    • Wow. do you use diapers at all?

  • Ellee Owen

    • We still use diapers! We’re not nearly good enough to go without. Its kinda just as we notice shes about to go we put her on the potty. I’d like to start being more dedicated with it.

  • Letjoy

    • What did your husband think when you told him you wanted to try EC?

  • Ellee Owen

    • I think he just kinda thought it was another one of my “crazy things.” But once he realized it was one less poopy diaper we had to wash he was down with it!

  • Letjoy

    • What does your extended family think about it?

  • Ellee Owen

    • No one really knows about it.. my mom is really the only one. We’ve learned our views are pretty different from the rest of the families, so we keep to ourselves. When shes at relatives house we just keep her in diapers the whole time.

  • Letjoy

    • When you started did you just take off the diaper and went for it? How did you start?

  • Ellee Owen

    • Pretty much… it was just “oh look, I think shes gonna go potty”. So we’d put her on the toilet. Now she has some nakey times during the day. but otherwise she’s still in diapers.

  • Letjoy

    • How does your daughter seem to be responding to it? What does she seem to like better diapers or no diapers?

  • Ellee Owen

    • Defiantly no diapers! She HATES diapers.

  • Letjoy

    • What are some of the benefits that you have noticed since starting EC?

  • Ellee Owen

    • Less diapers to wash!! And I’ve noticed I’m more in tune with what she needs and wants. I feel like this has helped me learn her queues way more. More then just potty queues too.

Thank you to Ellee for sharing your experience with EC with my readers and I.

Wanting the best for our babies is a natural thing for a mother. I first thought that people who did EC were kinda extreme and weird but now I have found a whole new respect for them. I tip my hat off to you EC mamas out there.

Please if you have comments on Elimination Communication or use EC please share in the comments below.

Happy Parenting 🙂

MMMM…Smells like Ammonia


If your Cloth diapers are smelling like ammonia even after you wash them you could have a problem. There could be one of three reasons for ammonia smelling diapers.

1. Detergent buildup . This is usually caused by using too much detergent or not the right kind of detergent. Many people say that they don’t have any problems using Tide or other mainstream detergents, but for others these detergents cause buildup or rashes. A lot of these detergents contain optical brighteners, enzymes, fabric softeners and other chemicals that can build up on diapers. Stripping the diapers and changing detergents or amount of the detergent used can usually solve this problem.

2. Mineral buildup . If you have hard water, minerals can build up in the fabric. Using a mineral remover such as RLR laundry treatment can help. Using a detergent specially made for hard water can also help, or even Borax to the wash could clear this up by making the detergent work better at getting the diapers clean.

3. Your diapers may not be getting clean enough. Sometimes adding a little more detergent is all you need. For others, you may need to change your wash routine. What works best for us is a cold rinse, followed by a hot wash with then two cold rinses. Also adding Borax could help your diapers get cleaner.

If your diapers are smelling like ammonia it is time to strip your diapers.

How to strip cloth diapers in a top loader washing machine:

* Wash diapers as usual. No need to dry them.

* Add 1-2 Tablespoons of dish detergent (blue Dawn works best) to your washer and wash diapers on hot. Soaking for a few hours can help too. DO NOT add extra detergent or use more than this amount, you will find yourself in a bad sitcom episode as you scoop up acres of bubbles.

* Rinse, rinse, rinse the diapers until there are no bubbles left when the machine.

 

How to strip cloth diapers in a front loader washing machine:

In a front loader, you will likely get way too many bubbles if you try this. So, soak the diapers in a sink, bucket or bathtub in a little dish detergent and hot water. Then rinse them as well as you can. Then run a hot wash cycle with no detergent and repeat until there are no bubbles left.

Sunlight is a great way to help keep odors and stains at bay. Line dry your diapers as often as you can.

 

Oh You Have Postpartum Depression, in that Case Your Not Covered


As a mom you have a million and one jobs to do. You need all the support you can get. Luckily I have a great support system, My family, my husband, my in-laws, my friends. If there is anything I need, I know that I can count on any and all of these people.

As you may remember I posted about how I got postpartum Anxiety, which later turned in to postpartum Depression. Not fun and I would not wish that on any mommy out there. Through therapy and the right medication I now have it under control. Which is great that is until I got the medical bill. Hubby has GREAT medical Insurance through his work so imagine my surprise when I opened up the bill and saw that NOTHING was covered!

How is it in today’s world that postpartum Depression IS NOT COVERED under medical insurance! I just can’t wrap my mind around it. I told Hubby to call the insurance company because this has to be a mistake! How could a company that we pay good money to not cover something as common as postpartum depression?

Before I became a mother I never really thought much about postpartum depression except that I hopped that I wouldn’t get it when I became a mother. I saw what Tom Cruz had to say about it and thought “You’re a man, what the hell would you know about it?”  I saw what Britney Spears did and thought “So sad she didn’t have a good enough support system to get the help she needed before her break down.” With all the opinions out there on postpartum no one really knows until you have experienced it for your self, whether you are a mom going through it, a husband watching your wife go through it or another loved one seeing it first hand.

Postpartum depression is over whelming and you feel like you are going crazy, and there is nothing you can do to fix it yourself. A lot of moms out there are ashamed to admit they need help or that they have postpartum depression at all. So I’m here to say it’s nothing to be ashamed of. I have it and I got help and I have to say I am so happy that I did. It has made a world of difference. So with that I leave you with many thoughts, thoughts I would love to hear in the comments below. I will be sure to give you an update on the whole insurance thing on a later date. Thanks and  Happy Living 🙂

A World of Hurt


In our home this past week my family has been fighting off sickness. First it was me then LP then hubby and now right at this moment I am sick again with a head cold! Will this pain never end. With all these cold taking out my family I can only be happy that everyone is now healthy (minus my head cold). The reason I am happy this all took place last week and not this week is because LP turns  1 on Saturday! We will have friends and family over for the big event. Hopefully this head cold will pass fast and I can continue the big days events.

Saturday is not only LP birthday but also The Great Cloth Diaper Change! So on LP birthday we will attempt to get in the record books also. which I think makes for a cool first birthday story.

ok I can’t push myself self to do this anymore. happy parenting 🙂

From Super Mom to Super Nasty


I have never been one for the nasty stuff. Ask anyone who knows me, Mold, puke, poop it all makes me gage. Since becoming a mom I have noticed you get use to the nasty stuff.

Since LP has been born I have been pooped on two times, peed on three times and puked on twice. All with in one year! Hubby got a poop blow out once and FREAKED! He was so grossed out so it seems to me that moms get the most because they can handle it better than dad (I’m sure that some dads handle it just fine but I am willing to bet a majority is like hubby).

When it comes to nasty moments with LP I just tough it out and push through, something I never knew I had in me. I guess it starts with the diapers. You kinda get use to poop when you have a baby. Poop becomes apart of your daily life.  Since naked time is common in our home since we use Cloth there is a lot of airing out which leads to pee on me and the floor sometimes, and I am ok with that.

When you become a parent you change a lot. Your priorities change your gross out level changes and you become increasingly selfless (at least for me). I have come to notice that my sister moms are like that too. The majority of them I have known before they became moms and I got to see them change but at the same time never forgetting who they are and how to make time for fun for themselves. So here is to every mom out there that has been puked on, pooped on, and or peed on. You are amazing

 

Happy Parenting 🙂

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