How This Mama Got Her Groove Back!


It is the heart of winter and I am already dreading swim suit season! Loosing weight after LP was born was not as easy as I thought it was going to be. It has been almost three years since my Little Pumpkin entered this world and I have not lost the weight.  So I decided to change things.

Back Story

Before I got married I weighted 180 pounds

Before wedding

September 2009

The winter before my wedding (December of 2009) I decided to look the best I have ever looked for my wedding (I have always been the bigger girl growing up). So I buckled down and started eating right. Whole grain everything, healthy snacks, no pop and one cheat day. Once I got that down I joined a gym. I started working out once a week, after two weeks twice a week, after another two weeks three times a week until I was going four times a week. Through out the day I would find ways to work out. Squats while folding laundry, taking the stairs instead of the elevator things like that.

I lost 40 pounds by doing all of this by my wedding (July 2010)

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The week before my wedding July 2009

So I decided I am going to get back to my past glory and get back to the weight I was on my wedding day 140 pounds. I have already switched my diet back to how I should be eating, so now it’s time to start working out.

Things have changed since I lost the weight the first time. I have no free time and I have a kid now. Solution: I quit the gym I was going to once a month and bought an elliptical, a yoga tDVD and “30 Day Shred” with Jillian Michaels DVD.

I have decided to bring you along for my journey and if you would like to join me Comment your progress in the comments on my blog posts and follow my daily routines on my Facebook Page  Letjoy Cloth Diapers.

Happy Work out 🙂

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What Kind of Parent Am I?


So I have been seeing a lot of post about attachment Parenting on my Facebook feed lately (can you tell what kind of facebook friends I have). While I like to think I am a natural parenting kinda gal. I know I am not an attachment type of parent. Don’t get me wrong I have friends who practice that style of parenting but it’s just not for me. I got to thinking what kind of parenting style do I practice?

So I hit the internet to find my parenting style. I read Blogs, took parenting style test and looked up definitions. This is what I found:

Turns out I am not just one parenting style. I am a mix. but my main foundation for my parenting style is Authoriative parenting.

Authoritative Parenting

Authoritative parents, also called ‘balanced’ parents, establish rules and guidelines, and children are expected to follow along. However, these parents are usually more responsive to their kids and more willing to listen to questions and negotiate. They are distinct from Authoritarian moms and dads as they’re more forgiving and nurturing, particularly when their children fail to follow the rules or meet their expectations.

The result? Children of Authoritative parents are the happiest, most capable and successful of the bunch!

I knew I was an authoritative parent in fact I knew before I had kids (thank you college psych classes). I wanted to know what modern day style I was, I mean there are so many styles: attachment parenting, crunchy, silky, tiger, emotional coaching parents. I mean the list goes on, but which one was I? So to find out I had to look up some definitions.

Emotion Coaching

“Come sit with me and we’ll talk about

how you’re feeling right now.”

Emotion Coaching parents value sharing emotional times

with their children.

To Emotion Coach, parents need to use empathy. Specifically,

these parents try to put themselves into their child’s shoes.

They show an understanding of their children’s emotions and

Guide them in their behavior. Emotion Coaching creates a

foundation for strong, healthy, trusting relationships.

Emotion Coaching takes practice. Every emotional event is

different and Emotion Coaching needs to be flexible. None of

us can do it all the time, but the more we can take the time to

help children work through their emotions, the better.

Children with Emotion Coaching Parents tend to …

Learn that feelings are important and can be trusted.

Learn how to name certain feelings and begin to understand

why they feel the way they do.

Learn that they are not alone with their feelings, and that they

can bring their wide range of emotions to their parents with

confidence they will beloved and comforted.

Learn that all feelings they experience are OK, but not all of

their behaviors are OK.

Learn how to solve the problems life brings.

Learn to calm themselves down when they have strong

Emotions so they can concentrate better at school.

Learn about their own feelings and the feelings of others,

which helps them form strong friendships.

Tiger Parenting

a strict or demanding mother who pushes her children to high levels of achievement, using methods regarded as typical of child rearing in China and other parts of East Asia

Crunchy Parenting

Mother who supports homebirth, breastfeeding, baby wearing, cloth diapering, co-sleeping, gentle discipline, etc. One who questions established medical authority; tends to be vegetarian and/or prepare all-organic foods. See crunchy and hippie.

(http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=crunchy%20mama)

Silky Parenting

Modern mother who prefers medicated hospital birth, bottle feeding/part time breastfeeding, disposable diapers, crib sleeping, etc. One who follows the advice of established medical authority; often tend to be working moms who rely on modern products for convenience and time management.

(http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=silky%20mom)

So I definitely am an emotional coach parenting style in fact while reading that I kept thinking I so do that on every point in the description

But I knew that wasn’t all  to my style of parenting and came a cross the term Scrunchy parenting

Scrunchy Parenting

A mix of silky parenting and Crunchy parenting

So that’s what I am a Authoritative, emotional coaching, Scrunchy mom. Leave a comment and tell me what you are.

 

Happy Parenting 🙂

 

 

To Eat or Not to Eat that is the Question


Little Pumpkin

Remember the days when your baby would cry and you would know they needed one of the following : diaper change, burping, or the boob. Now that LP is a toddler she is always begging for snacks. Always “food?”, Soon followed by a temper tantrum when the answer is no; But how do you know if your toddler is really hungry or just wants to snack.

For Toddlers ( ages 1-3)

Daily calories needed: 1,200-1,400

With toddlers when they are eating lunch or dinner and they tell you that they are full and they have eaten a good amount of food on the plate trust them they know. It’s natural for a toddlers appetite to change day-to-day. one day they may want to eat everything on the plate the next not so much. Research done at the University of California, San Francisco, Up to 85 percent of parents say don’t listen to their kids when they say they are full and push them to eat more (‘two more bites”) , giving them praise for having a couple more bites. This could lead to your child eating when they aren’t hungry. As a child I remember going to my grand parents house for dinner and we weren’t allowed to leave the table until out plates were clean, making us apart of the exclusive “clean plate club”. As an adult I still struggle listening to my body when I am full and not feel like I have to finish everything on my plate. Talk about your classical conditioning. So when I became a parent I knew from the beginning that clean plate would not be a requirement in my childrens lives.  Don’t get me wrong if my kid takes two bites and says All done I know the last time she at was a snack at 2 and it is now 6pm she is hungry, but if she eats most of whats on her plate yeah I’ll listen and tall her good job. If your full you are full no sweets after dinner (fruit, apple sauce, cookies, ect….).  A study done at the University of Pennsylvania found that many over weight 5 to 12 year olds aren’t receptive to their own hunger cues. Helping your child to stay aware whether they are hungry or full may go a long way to prevent obesity.

At lunch time LP eats in the living room at the coffee table with her Little chair. We don’t do this because she wants to watch tv but because she is a toddler and it’s the middle of the day. she will eat a little see a toy she wants to play with then go back to her food and eat some more. Didn’t you know toddlers have busy schedules mid day lot’s of playing to fit in before that nap. so with a PB&J sandwich and some fruit and carrot sticks that gives LP to eat food that wont get cold and still taste good even though she is grazing. As time has gone by doing this I have noticed that LP will spend more and more time eating at one time and taking fewer and fewer play breaks. While this is happening she is learning to sit at the table and eat so when we go places (friends and familys houses for dinner, Restaurants) I have noticed she isn’t as fussy to stay at the table and eat.

At Dinner I do strap her in to the high chair for a few reasons. At the tail end of cooking dinner the house is filled with yummy smells and this kicks LP hunger in high gear resulting her at my feet begging for food. So I strap her in to the high chair and hive her a coloring book with some crayons. This way she knows that I am not ignoring her request and that food is coming soon. She gets to distract herself from the hunger with an activity , and I know she isn’t going to color on the walls or wood floors so I can concentrate on dinner. Finally the high chair is at the same level as the dinning room table so we can eat as a family and she can feel apart of it.

Kids can’t tell time so sticking to a schedule is important we keep meals and snacks about three hours apart. Breakfast at 6:30am ( know she is a early riser) a Healthy snack at 9:30 Lunch at 12:30 followed by a nap, a sweets snack (cookies, fruit snacks) at 3:30 and dinner a little after 6pm. We never really have problems with LP napping because she knows that after lunch comes a nap. keeping your kids on a schedule not only keeps your kid at a healthy by “normalizing hunger, but it helps them to know whats coming next in the day giving them a sense of security.

I know every parent has tried it but giving food as a bribe is a no no. Example: Lp was upset a toy had been taken from her from one of her little friends. She was mad! so she decided to throw a temper tantrum. Hubbys solution. He offers her food because he know thats the fail safe no matter what LP will be happy if you give her food. She is a eater what can I say. When I heard him offer her a treat. I said A. you are rewarding her for throwing a TT. And B. that could lead to emotional eating. He laughed at me “emotional eating?!”. He thought I was off my rocker. “She is two.” he said. Then My friend and I explained that emotional eating is psychological and if when she is disappointed as a child and you give her food to make her feel better, as an adult she will eat when she is upset. A lot of parents use food as reward and or trying to get their kid to do something they want for food. when you do this you are sending the wrong message about food. While some parents do this from time to time for short periods claim success it’s no good to use it in excess.

Bribing your kids to eat veggies is no good as well. toddlers tastes change a lot. one week LP loves cooked carrots the next she wont touch them. just because they don’t want to eat it doesn’t mean you should try to make them eat it, they will probably eat it next week and hate something else. being mindful of what your kid doesn’t want to eat week to week and just giving a different veggie they will eat will save you from wasting food and from tears (yours and your little one 🙂 )

Well I hope this helps you on this crazy adventure we call parenting. If you have more questions, or any feed back about this post  please feel free to leave a comment I love getting feed back from my readers.

Happy parenting! 🙂

The Terrible Twos


No one ever told me that the terrible two start before the kid is even two. At about 20 months LP started throwing temper tantrums. I have no one but myself to blame, she has my temper. Lp is a very laid back but when she gets mad, look out! So what to do with these temper tantrums she is throwing.  Well I didn’t want to punish LP for throwing a TT. A temper tantrum is a surge of emotion that your little one experience when they get mad. Learning how to control that emotion is the tricky part. So when ever LP throws a TT I take her to her room and tell her she can cry and scream all she wants in her room and when she is done she can come out and join the rest of us. I figure if LP knows there is a place to throw TT she will learn to control herself in public because her room is not there. Now this is a method I came up with on my own so I have no idea if it will work. LP has never thrown a TT in public yet. I told my husband I want LP to feel that she can express her emotions without feeling like she is doing something wrong. That’s why we put her in her room with the door open. Her room is her safe place, her area to do what she needs to get out her frustrations. When LP is on the verge of a TT I let her know that I understand that she is frustrated. I mean think about how frustrating it would be if you wanted something but no one understood what you wanted. I try to explain to her that I don’t understand what she wants when she doesn’t use her words. I believe a lot of LP TT is caused from frustration so working on communication is key to keep the TT to a minimum.

How do you deal with Temper Tantrums? leave a comment on what worked for you and what didn’t.

 

I sleep where I want to sleep


LP is 21 months and it seems as if she has already entered her terrible twos. Her temper tantrums are getting worse and more often. All week she has been waking up in the night and throwing temper tantrums for no reason. This goes on for hours every night. I am at my wit’s end.

The other night LP ran to the couch and wanted to sleep on the couch. Our home is baby proofed so I was ok with it as long as I got to sleep. I left LP bedroom door open just in case she wanted to go back to her room. In the morning I awoke to LP gone. Thinking she went to her bedroom I went to go check on her. This is what I found in the hallway.

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Parenting is hard but sometimes you just have to sit back and laugh.

happy parenting 🙂

Traveling With a One Year Old


So  LP and I decided to take a trip to Seattle, WA to visit my sister and her husband. Hubby had to work so it would just be the two of us traveling. I had never traveled on a plane with a toddler and since I was going by myself I figured I should ask people who had traveled by plane with small children and I also went searching on the internet for tips. So I am here to tell you how I survived and what worked and what didn’t.

Tip #1 Bring a Nuk to help baby with ears popping.

Did this work? Not really, This is a great tip for a baby but LP hadn’t took a nuk since she was 12 months so a t 20 months she was not having it! What did I do you ask…. well on the way, I just tried to comfort her, On the way back I bought orange juice (her favorite) and put it in her sippy cup. I didn’t give it to LP until we were about to take off/ Land and that solved the problem.

Tip #2 Buy a new toy and give it to your little one to play on the plane. This will help keep their attention longer because it is a new toy.

Did this work? Kinda, I didn’t go out and buy a few new toys because funds are short but I did find some toys that LP hardly ever plays with. While they did keep her attention for a while, a toddler can only sit still for so long.

Tip #3 Let them walk up and down the isles after the plane has taken off and reacted cursing altitude.

This is a good tip but you can only do this so many times before your become “That Lady” With the kid that is bugging everyone. On our way to Seattle this worked great but we had a morning flight. On the way home was another story. We had a late night flight and people were sleeping and LP wanted to play with everyone. What did I do. I took her to the back of the plane and let her entertain the flight attendants. they enjoyed it and I didn’t feel bad that LP was looking for attention and getting it.

Tip #4 Plane your flight at a time when your Little one is going to be sleeping.

Did this work? HELL NO! If you have a toddler like mine then your little ones loves to be the center of attention, even if that means she has to fight sleep. By scheduling the flight at LP bed time, all it did was make she more whiny and crabby. The morning flight was much better she was wide awake but happy to color and play. On the night flight home she didn’t know what she wanted and was mad.

So those were the main tips I got and the biggest one I have is NEVER travel with a small child alone unless you need to. We survived but it was not fun.

Happy traveling  🙂

The Road to Recovery


Hello everyone in blog world. Yes I  know it has been awhile but please don’t think I haven’t thought of you.

I have been on the road of recovery as you know from my last blog post. Since I told you the brief story I figure I should tell you how my life has been since we Last visited.

As you know I was sick. Started out as a tonsillitis (at least that’s what the doctor said it was) but with in twenty-four hours my life was turned upside down. I had to get most of the story from my husband since I don’t remember the next two days. My hubby said it was the scariest thing you could watch someone you love go through. I was unresponsive at times I wouldn’t make sense when I did respond to him I would just say yes or no or leave me alone.So here is the short version of the story. Side note LP was at grandma and grandpa’s the night this happened (Thank God) :

Hubby came home from work (night shift) and went to check on me in bed and I was nowhere to be found. He soon found me in LP’s bedroom standing looking in her closet. He asked me what I was doing and I gave a response made no sense at all. He led me back to our room and put me back to bed. From there I am not sure what order the following things took place but you will get the idea. As my hubby laid me down I began to convulse Hubby told me that I had a seizure for about forty-five mins. In that time hubby had called 911 and Two police cars, one ambulance, and two fire trucks showed up to my house by this time it was about 8am and my neighbors were getting a show for sure.  The paramedics had to give me a sedative to get me to calm down. I was rushed to the hospital where they did a bunch of tests on me to find I had viral meningitis. For those of you who don’t know what that is this is what wikipedia had to say about it.

 

Meningitis is inflammation of the protective membranes covering the brain and spinal cord, known collectively as the meninges.[1] The inflammation may be caused by infection with viruses, bacteria, or other microorganisms, and less commonly by certain drugs.[2] Meningitis can be life-threatening because of the inflammation’s proximity to the brain and spinal cord; therefore the condition is classified as a medical emergency.

Since I had a seizure my brain was very infected and it was moving from sick to life and death. I don’t remember that day or the next day but my hubby said I was awake and talking but I don’t remember them at all. I spent a week in the hospital and went to stay at my in-laws. I had to be watched to make sure I didn’t faint fall seizure for the next month. I couldn’t watch TV, go on the computer, Read, knit, sew, do word games, play cards. Any thing so I mostly slept and watched people live their lives while I got better.

Now I’m back at home able to do mostly every thing I could do before my ordeal. The after math has left me with something. Headaches and Tremors. And I am talking My hands shake so bad I can’t hardly do anything. So the doctor gave me some anti seizure meds and they pretty much take care or the tremors and the headaches. With time the doctor said I should make a full recovery.

 

So that’s my story (the short version) but before I sign off I would like to say a few Thanks

Thank you to my husband’s family, You stepped up when things got scary I owe you so much.

Thank you to my family for loving me

Thank you to my friends who checked up on my to make sure I was still kicking

Thank  you to the Minnesota Cloth Diapering Mommies  facebook group for sending me that delicious edible arrangement

and Last but not least Thank you to my husband. not every girl gets a knight in shinning armor, You saved my life and I am so thankful you are my knight in shinning armor.

 

Happy Living 🙂

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