Let me just start this post off by saying I am Pro gay rights. Now let me tell you the back story of why I am.
Growing up my parents always taught me to treat people how you want to be treated no matter who they are. As I grew up I really never thought about that topic, I grew up in a small town and everyone knew everyone pretty much. When I became a teen I experienced something I had never before. My mother was a Brazilian native and a very active member of our town. She was a teacher full-time teaching English as a second langue and she worked at the local YMCA after school hours. One day after school I drove to the YMCA to see my mom for something (probably to get money for something but I don’t recall). As I walked up my mom was standing out side with two little boys about 10ish. My mom told me how the two boys had trashed the bathroom and we suspended from the YMCA for a week and she was waiting with the boys for their mom to pick them up and to talk to her about it. Soon the mom showed up and I stood off to the side to give my mother and the lady some privacy to talk. Soon the lady was demanding to talk to the person in charge, my mom informed her that she was in charge that day, this lady then started to yell at my mom about how she didn’t know anything because she (my mother) was a stupid spic. I will never for get how that made me feel, for someone to thing it is ok to treat someone like that just because they are different I knew from that moment that I would always treat others with respect no matter their skin color, beliefs, or sex orientation.
In my life I have had gay people in my life, the first person I ever knew who was openly gay was my oldest sisters roommate and friend. He would visit with my sister when she came home and he soon became a good family friend. When I moved to the cities (Minneapolis, st Paul I soon became friends with many new people including a few gay people. fast forward to when I was 25 years old. My mother told me that when her first husband died her best friend at the time (a gay man) was so concerned about my mom and my older sisters well-being that he offered to marry my mom and take care of them (at those times that was the only way for a gay man to have a family). My mom although she appreciated his offer declined. months later while my mom was visiting friends and family in Brazil became sick and I went to Brazil to see her and be with her at her death-bed. While in Brazil I discovered that my grandfather the man who raised my mother was not my bio grandpa. I guess my grandmother left my grandfather while she was pregnant with my mother. Her employer (a gay man) offered to let my grandma live with him and he would support her and her unborn child as long as he could raise the baby as his own because he had always wanted a child. My mom loved her father I am not sure if she knew growing up of her “father” and mothers arrangement but as an adult she knew and it didn’t matter, he was dad, and he was my grandpa. My husband’s brother is a gay man and lives with is partner and have a very normal marriage (even though it’s not legal in Minnesota I say they are married). I am happy that my children will grow up being exposed to a non traditional family, it makes me proud to have such wonderful people in my family both my brothers in law and my grandfather, because really defining them as gay men comes short of who they are.
With all this talk on gay right this week I can’t help but share my views on the topic. It’s not gay rights at all it human rights in my book. All americans should have the same rights. No matter if you are a man, a women, black or white. It doesn’t matter everyone legal has to be treated the same (not saying that short falls don’t happen). So why does this not include who we marry. I could not imagine a world where I could not marry my husband a man who I love with my whole heart and soul. So I don’t thing it’s fair that others can’t. Not so long ago blacks could not marry whites you tell kids that now and they are so confused on what the issue was back then on that topic because blacks and whites are now equal. I hope someday my grand children will look at the topic of gay marriage in their history books and think “what was the big deal, why couldn’t they get married?”
While I am respectful of people’s beliefs and views this is one topic I will not budge.
I have heard it all:
- “It says in the bible that’s its wrong” yeah well so is mixing fibers when you wear them (cotton and polyester for example) in fact pretty sure those two topics are addressed in the same section. in the bible. I think if God is all knowing and all forgiving why would god not want two good people who love each other not to be together.
- “Making gay marriage legal will affect my child” really this is so weak, you can’t make someone gay you are born that way, knowing that gay people can be married is not going to fuck up your child. I’m fine and I have had some very good men who happen to be gay in my life as a child.
- And the one I hate the most of all ” If gay people can get married next people who want to marry an animal will have an argument to make it legal.” OK first fuck you and second you are comparing two consenting adult human beings and an animal. That there makes you a horrible person if you think that way.
Gay people are just that People, And no person should feel like a second class citizen because of their class, skin color, sex, or sexual orientation.
Well that was my rant on the subject and thank you for taking the time to read it.\
Happy equal rights for all 🙂
