What Kind of Parent Am I?


So I have been seeing a lot of post about attachment Parenting on my Facebook feed lately (can you tell what kind of facebook friends I have). While I like to think I am a natural parenting kinda gal. I know I am not an attachment type of parent. Don’t get me wrong I have friends who practice that style of parenting but it’s just not for me. I got to thinking what kind of parenting style do I practice?

So I hit the internet to find my parenting style. I read Blogs, took parenting style test and looked up definitions. This is what I found:

Turns out I am not just one parenting style. I am a mix. but my main foundation for my parenting style is Authoriative parenting.

Authoritative Parenting

Authoritative parents, also called ‘balanced’ parents, establish rules and guidelines, and children are expected to follow along. However, these parents are usually more responsive to their kids and more willing to listen to questions and negotiate. They are distinct from Authoritarian moms and dads as they’re more forgiving and nurturing, particularly when their children fail to follow the rules or meet their expectations.

The result? Children of Authoritative parents are the happiest, most capable and successful of the bunch!

I knew I was an authoritative parent in fact I knew before I had kids (thank you college psych classes). I wanted to know what modern day style I was, I mean there are so many styles: attachment parenting, crunchy, silky, tiger, emotional coaching parents. I mean the list goes on, but which one was I? So to find out I had to look up some definitions.

Emotion Coaching

“Come sit with me and we’ll talk about

how you’re feeling right now.”

Emotion Coaching parents value sharing emotional times

with their children.

To Emotion Coach, parents need to use empathy. Specifically,

these parents try to put themselves into their child’s shoes.

They show an understanding of their children’s emotions and

Guide them in their behavior. Emotion Coaching creates a

foundation for strong, healthy, trusting relationships.

Emotion Coaching takes practice. Every emotional event is

different and Emotion Coaching needs to be flexible. None of

us can do it all the time, but the more we can take the time to

help children work through their emotions, the better.

Children with Emotion Coaching Parents tend to …

Learn that feelings are important and can be trusted.

Learn how to name certain feelings and begin to understand

why they feel the way they do.

Learn that they are not alone with their feelings, and that they

can bring their wide range of emotions to their parents with

confidence they will beloved and comforted.

Learn that all feelings they experience are OK, but not all of

their behaviors are OK.

Learn how to solve the problems life brings.

Learn to calm themselves down when they have strong

Emotions so they can concentrate better at school.

Learn about their own feelings and the feelings of others,

which helps them form strong friendships.

Tiger Parenting

a strict or demanding mother who pushes her children to high levels of achievement, using methods regarded as typical of child rearing in China and other parts of East Asia

Crunchy Parenting

Mother who supports homebirth, breastfeeding, baby wearing, cloth diapering, co-sleeping, gentle discipline, etc. One who questions established medical authority; tends to be vegetarian and/or prepare all-organic foods. See crunchy and hippie.

(http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=crunchy%20mama)

Silky Parenting

Modern mother who prefers medicated hospital birth, bottle feeding/part time breastfeeding, disposable diapers, crib sleeping, etc. One who follows the advice of established medical authority; often tend to be working moms who rely on modern products for convenience and time management.

(http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=silky%20mom)

So I definitely am an emotional coach parenting style in fact while reading that I kept thinking I so do that on every point in the description

But I knew that wasn’t all  to my style of parenting and came a cross the term Scrunchy parenting

Scrunchy Parenting

A mix of silky parenting and Crunchy parenting

So that’s what I am a Authoritative, emotional coaching, Scrunchy mom. Leave a comment and tell me what you are.

 

Happy Parenting 🙂

 

 

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Fifth disease


Right now in our home we are battling Fifths Disease. I know it sounds horrible but it’s not as bad as it sounds. At first my mommy friends and I thought it was the same as hand, foot and mouth. Although they are similar they are not the same.

Fifths Disease

The disease is also referred to as slapped cheek syndromeslap cheekslap face or slapped face. The Fifth Disease starts with a low-grade fever, headache, and cold like symptoms, such as a runny or stuffy nose. These symptoms pass, then a few days later the rash appears. The bright red rash most commonly appears in the face. Cheeks are a defining symptom of the infection in children (hence the name “slapped cheek disease”). Occasionally the rash will extend over the bridge of the nose or around the mouth. In addition to red cheeks, children often develop a red, lacy rash on the rest of the body, with the upper arms, torso, and legs being the most common locations. The rash typically lasts a couple of days and may itch; some cases have been known to last for several weeks. Patients are usually no longer infectious once the rash has appeared. Teenagers and adults may present with a self-limited arthritis. It manifests in painful swelling of the joints that feels similar to arthritis. Older children and adults with fifth disease may have difficulty in walking and in bending joints such as wrists, knees, ankles, fingers, and shoulders.

Fifth disease is transmitted primarily by respiratory secretions (saliva, mucus, etc.) but can also be spread by contact with infected blood. The incubation period (the time between the initial infection and the onset of symptoms) is usually between 4 and 21 days. Individuals with fifth disease are most infectious before the onset of symptoms. Typically, school children, day-care workers, teachers and mothers are most likely to be exposed to the virus. When symptoms are evident, there is little risk of transmission; therefore, symptomatic individuals need not be isolated.
Any age may be affected although it is most common in children aged five to fifteen years. By the time adulthood is reached about half the population will have become immune following infection at some time in their past.Outbreaks can arise especially in nursery schools, preschools, and elementary schools.

So Not only is LP battling this rash all over her body but hubby and I have it also. My knee has been killing me the last three weeks and hubbys shoulder has been killing him.

A friend of mine that is learning about essential Oils mixed up a concoction and brought it right over .

Thieves Oil,  purification Oil, lavender Oil, and Coconut Oil We put it on Lps foot every diaper change so every hour and a half on the bottom of her foot, and in one day the rash is so much better!  So I went to a talk about  essential oils and what they can do. I am for sure a believer! I have used essential oils in cleaning products but never for medical uses. I will now!

That’s all for now I need to get up and walking because my knee is really starting to hurt.

Happy parenting

The Terrible Twos


No one ever told me that the terrible two start before the kid is even two. At about 20 months LP started throwing temper tantrums. I have no one but myself to blame, she has my temper. Lp is a very laid back but when she gets mad, look out! So what to do with these temper tantrums she is throwing.  Well I didn’t want to punish LP for throwing a TT. A temper tantrum is a surge of emotion that your little one experience when they get mad. Learning how to control that emotion is the tricky part. So when ever LP throws a TT I take her to her room and tell her she can cry and scream all she wants in her room and when she is done she can come out and join the rest of us. I figure if LP knows there is a place to throw TT she will learn to control herself in public because her room is not there. Now this is a method I came up with on my own so I have no idea if it will work. LP has never thrown a TT in public yet. I told my husband I want LP to feel that she can express her emotions without feeling like she is doing something wrong. That’s why we put her in her room with the door open. Her room is her safe place, her area to do what she needs to get out her frustrations. When LP is on the verge of a TT I let her know that I understand that she is frustrated. I mean think about how frustrating it would be if you wanted something but no one understood what you wanted. I try to explain to her that I don’t understand what she wants when she doesn’t use her words. I believe a lot of LP TT is caused from frustration so working on communication is key to keep the TT to a minimum.

How do you deal with Temper Tantrums? leave a comment on what worked for you and what didn’t.

 

Mama! I can’t…….can do it.


As a parent you want to protect your child, you don’t want them to get hurt, you want them to be happy, but you don’t want them to be whiny (what parent does, right?). There is a line that can cross and that line is the over protective parent. No one wants to be that person but I can see how it is easy to not even notice that you have become one.

When LP was younger Hubby and I were at his parents house. By this time LP had long been mobile and she has had her share of bumps along the way. LP was climbing on a chair (on the Legs not very far off the ground) and Hubby jumped up to retrieve her. “What are you doing?” I asked. “I don’t want her to fall and get hurt.” She was just learning to climb and I asked him “How do you think she will learn how to get up on a chair if you always stop her?” The way I see it is most of the learning we do as adults is trial and error, what makes us think it’s any different for kids. The only difference is we don’t have a giant stopping us when we are having a little trouble. Same with parents that help their child too much. I’m not saying not to help your child but there is a point where it goes to far. Like instead of your child going to try a task on their own they turn to you for help, Then you might have passed that line. If you catch the early signs of over protective parent don’t worry there is still hope for you 😛

I am not saying that it isn’t easy to risk your child getting hurt but the smile that takes over their little face with pride when they have accomplished a task on their own is worth the stress.

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I have to remind myself that everything is a new experience for LP and that I need to let her have those experiences and knowing the difference between learning and danger is part of what makes a good parent.

Happy parenting 🙂

Baby Teeth


” When you push that kid out they should have a book that tells you how to raise that specific child.” This is what was said to me as I was discussing dental care for our Little Ones with my friend “I”. Our kids are a week apart and she is just as clueless on dental care for our kids as I am. That is until I read an article in Parents magazine. That’s when I found out that I am doing what I am suppose to be (yay for me). My friend “I” had a lot of questions. Which brings me to this post. I figured if the both of us are clueless with our 21 month olds then there have got to be other moms out there that are just as clueless.

dental care is important for little ones, it teaches them good habits, and can prevent dental problems (bills) before there permanent teeth come in. You may think that it’s not that important now because they don’t have all their teeth, or because they are baby teeth and they are going to fall out anyways. This is not true. Kids should see the dentist between their 1st and second Birthday depending on how your kids teeth are coming in. Problems with baby teeth could effect adult teeth making it a life long problem. You should get into the habit of wiping babys gums even before teeth come in for two reasons: gets baby use to having you brush their teeth before they even have teeth and bacteria grows on babys gums also so when those buggers start to pock through the gums will be clean.

Personally we didn’t start using Tooth paste (baby tooth paste with no fluoride  until LP was a year old but before that we used just plain water. So here is our run down on brushing teeth in our house. I give LP her tooth brush with water on it and she goes to town brushing her teeth (granted it’s more like shaking her tooth brush in her mouth). While she is “brushing” her own teeth I brush mine, I have noticed that while she is watching me she mimics how I brush my teeth. After I am done I sit on the toilet with LP on my lap and I brush her teeth with tooth paste, at first LP hated it when it was my turn to brush her teeth but she soon got use to it and now she puts up little fight. You should brush your kids teeth after they do to make sure that the teeth are clean. When your kid can tie their own shoe they have the dexterity to go solo brushing their own teeth.  If your child makes it to age 4 with no cavities it’s a good chance cavities wont be a problem in their child hood, they have good habits down and prob. good genes.

Preventing cavities:

Don’t put your little one down for bed with a sippy or bottle. the sugars in formula, milk and breast milk will cling to your little ones teeth allowing bacteria to grow/feed during the night. The bacteria that causes cavities feed on sugar so cutting back on juice is a good option, especially if your little one runs around with a sippy cup all day. Cut back on sugary treats and high-carbohydrated snacks like crackers, pretzels and cereal which break down in to sugars.The AAPD recommends no more then 6 ounces of juice a day. If your little one Loves juice, take a 6 oz water bottle or one that has measurements on the side and fill it to six ounces in the morning so you can keep track of your little ones juice intake. Also make sure your little one gets lots of water infused with fluoride  most counties add fluoride to faucet water so make sure they get water from the faucet. If you have well water or use bottled water talk to your doctor. It is recommended that your little one be off Bottles/sippy cups by 12 months (yeah that’s going to happen). I think a more realistic goal is by 20 months. At 12 months no nuks, no bottles ( make sure to do this by a year because your little one will forget about their bottle or nuk quicker and it will make it much easier for you). Switch to sippys and between 12 and 20 months introduce different sippy cups that will help them make the switch to cups easier. I didn’t introduce cups to LP her grand parents did. When we would go over to their house for dinner they always gave LP a plastic cup and helped her to drink out of it. They had sippy cups but they reserved those for the day time. LP is almost 21 months and uses a cup by herself at dinner now. I plan to have her off sippys by her second birthday but save a few for travel.

I hope that this post has answered some of your questions about dental care for babies. If you have more questions leave a comment and I will try and answer them if I can.

Happy Parenting 🙂Image

Momma Bear vs the World


Hello I am a mom of a child with a dairy allergy. This is what I feel like I should say when I introduce my self to people.

I am amazed at how I feel like I have to fight to make sure my child (who is lactose Intolerant) doesn’t have any dairy. The most surprising struggle has been with my in-laws. I love them and they are the best grandparents that LP could ask for but for some reason they just don’t seem to take her allergy seriously. In our family hubby, LP, and I celebrate Christmas with my family on Christmas eve and with hubbys family on Christmas. Since I had so much to do My in-laws volunteered to take LP for the day for me to prepare, which was great; that is until I went to go and pickup LP in the evening. When I got there everyone (hubbys brother was there also with his significant other) was going on about this gross poop LP had loaded into her diaper. My first question, “Did someone give her dairy?” My brother in laws response “Is she not suppose to have dairy?” Apparently they had given her straight milk, cheese and cookies. I wasn’t that upset because they didn’t know (at the time I couldn’t imagine how they didn’t know). The next day at Christmas I saw Grandpa give LP a little bit of cookie saying if it weren’t for grandpa you wouldn’t get anything good. In the past I have stepped in and intercepted the treat with dairy but in the end I get a look from grandpa and a lecture from hubby about how little milk is in that cookie and just to let it go.  Now that LP has been given so much dairy I had a serious talk to hubby about putting our foot down on LP getting Dairy. I also had a talk with Grandpa and how serious LPs dairy allergy is.  I hope that these talks will put an end to this problem in our family.

 

Happy Parenting 🙂

They Grow Up So Fast!


So this week is a big week in the Letjoy Household, LP has graduated from the crib to the toddler bed! When we made the switch I was so nervous. Day one she was so tired from the days activities that she went right to sleep.

I had seen on pintrest how you could put a fun noodle under the sheets to ensure that your little one doesn’t fall out of bed so easy. I went to target and walmart and got the same answer from both stores when I asked about fun noodles. “that is out of season we wont have them until next summer” Oh NO!!!!! so I headed home to try and figure out what I was going to do. I ended  up taking a bumper pad and folded it to the length of the crib and tied it so it was like a soft fun noodle 🙂

I was worried that LP would just climb out of bed when she would wake up, but since the toddler bed is her crib that turned in to the bed she just stands on the rail side of the bed and yells/ cries at me to get out of bed 😛 silly baby.

So the plan is to let her get use to sleeping in the bed and in two months move LP in to her own room across the hall. (hubby says that he is not ready to give up co- sleeping, something I never thought I would hear come out of his mouth.)

I hope that everything works out smoothly

Happy Parenting 🙂

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