Mom I Need to Use the Potty….Never MInd


So here in the Letjoy home we have said good bye cloth diapers hello underwear. At least that’s what I thought. LP has been great she can go all day with out an accident, that is until we venture out of the home.

Last week we were hanging out in the back yard and LP went to explore our fenced in yard. I was gardening and I realized it had been a little too quiet. I looked up just in time to see my sweet little two year old “popping a squat” and taking a nice big poop next to the fence (sorry to the neighbor lady behind us). “LP” I say “why didn’t you tell me you needed to go poop poop?” All I could do is smile and take her inside to clean her up.

LP has done great with trips to the store. Before we leave she sits on the potty. When we get to the store we go straight to the bathroom for good measure and again before we leave for home. Than one day it all went to hell. Lp was peeing on the floor, pooping in he pants and throwing temper tantrums when ever asked if she would sit on the potty. Where did my potty trained child go!? Being the stubborn person that I am I was not about to unpack the cloth diapers and start all over! My solution go back to the beginning.  I ask LP to sit on the potty every half hour, I let her run naked so that she doesn’t feel the comfort of something “catching” her poop or pee (this does not mean there hasn’t been some accidents on the floor but lucky for me she now tells me where they are rather than me stepping in it or having to try and find where the smell is coming from. Thank God.) Slowly but surly we are getting back to where we were at before she decided she didn’t want to be potty trained.  

well I will update you later people of the internet

 

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The Terrible Twos


No one ever told me that the terrible two start before the kid is even two. At about 20 months LP started throwing temper tantrums. I have no one but myself to blame, she has my temper. Lp is a very laid back but when she gets mad, look out! So what to do with these temper tantrums she is throwing.  Well I didn’t want to punish LP for throwing a TT. A temper tantrum is a surge of emotion that your little one experience when they get mad. Learning how to control that emotion is the tricky part. So when ever LP throws a TT I take her to her room and tell her she can cry and scream all she wants in her room and when she is done she can come out and join the rest of us. I figure if LP knows there is a place to throw TT she will learn to control herself in public because her room is not there. Now this is a method I came up with on my own so I have no idea if it will work. LP has never thrown a TT in public yet. I told my husband I want LP to feel that she can express her emotions without feeling like she is doing something wrong. That’s why we put her in her room with the door open. Her room is her safe place, her area to do what she needs to get out her frustrations. When LP is on the verge of a TT I let her know that I understand that she is frustrated. I mean think about how frustrating it would be if you wanted something but no one understood what you wanted. I try to explain to her that I don’t understand what she wants when she doesn’t use her words. I believe a lot of LP TT is caused from frustration so working on communication is key to keep the TT to a minimum.

How do you deal with Temper Tantrums? leave a comment on what worked for you and what didn’t.

 

P is for Poop and Potty


With all this talk about Elimination Communication and Infant Potty Training this got me thinking about LP and preparing for her to potty training. I like to do things in steps, not push for things all at once. When step one seems to be down then move to step two and so on. That’s what we have done for all the weaning that has happened in our house (bottle and Nuk) so I thought why not the potty to.

My action plan.

Step One: Get to Know the Potty.

I have been watching LP for signs that she maybe getting ready to poop. This is easy since she stops and starts to grunt like she is pushing. I stop what I am doing ask her “Do you need to go poop?” and take her to the bathroom and put her on the toilet. Sometimes she poops sometimes she pees and sometimes she doesn’t do anything. The point on this step is to get her to associate the bathroom/ toilet with going poop and pee. I do not expect her to go potty in the toilet and tell me when she needs to go, I just want her to learn what the toilet and associate it with the feelings she gets when she needs to go potty is used for.

Step Two: Get Your Own Potty

After LP has learned that a toilet is for going potty than we will get her own special potty seat, with steps. This will make her excited to go potty on her own and tell me when she needs to go potty (at least that is what I am hoping)

Step Three: Big Girl Underwear During the Day

When LP has gotten the potty down and is constantly letting me know when she needs to go potty then I will take her to the store and together we will buy big girl underwear.  I’ll let her pick out (as much as a small child can) what she wants so that she wont want to mess her new underwear up. again reinforcing her to use the potty.

Step Four: NO MORE DIAPERS!

I think the title speaks for its self. watch her ques and slowly get ride of diapers all together.

No I know LP is only a year and I am by no means expecting her to get these steps done anytime soon. I am on step one and I want her to get comfortable with the idea of using the potty and getting to know it. she is much to young to know to hold it until she gets to the potty. I am just trying to make her associate that sensation she feels right before she goes potty with the toilet. I am not pushing her and I am following her ques. i don’t want her to feel ashamed for going potty in her diaper and not the potty (at any step) I don’t believe in making kids think poop is bad or shameful just that everything has a place and it’s good to put them where they belong.

(Photo Credit: SMHerrick Photography)

We are currently on day two of step one and so far LP has pooped once and peed once in the toilet which was more than I expected.  By no means am I a professional but maybe you can follow the method I have chosen for my Little One and if you think it’s right for your child maybe you can try it. and Let me know how it goes.

I would love to hear how the rest of you with older children Potty trained them! leave a comment on how you did it. Plans can always be improved 🙂

Happy Parenting 🙂

Wait You Don’t Use Diapers?


Elimination Communication is something that mothers are talking about these days. What is it? Who started it? Why do it? Are those people crazy? All valid questions so I went digging. My first thoughts on the subject before I did some research was that’s too much work for me I am not that crunchy. I thought it was people trying to potty train their baby’s at a ridiculously early age. Not so. Here is some information I found on the subject. (source: Wikipedia)

Elimination communication (EC) is a toilet training practice in which a caregiver uses timing, signals, cues, and intuition to address an infant’s need to eliminate waste. Caregivers try to recognize and respond to babies’ bodily needs and enable them to urinate and defecate in an appropriate place (e.g. a toilet). Caregivers either use diapers (nappies) as a back-up in case of misses, avoid the use of them altogether, or do a mixture of the two. EC emphasizes communication between the caregiver and child, helping them both become more attuned to the child’s innate rhythms and control of urination and defecation. The practice can be done full time, part time, or just occasionally. The term “elimination communication” was inspired by traditional practices of diaper-less baby care in less industrialized countries and hunter-gatherer cultures.[1] Some practitioners of EC begin soon after birth, the optimum window being zero to four months[2], although it can be started with babies of any age.

The terms elimination communication and natural infant hygiene were coined by Ingrid Bauer and are used interchangeably in her book, Diaper Free! The Gentle Wisdom of Natural Infant Hygiene (2001). Bauer had traveled to India and Africa, where she noticed that most mothers would carry their diaperless babies constantly, yet she saw no elimination “accidents” as would be expected in industrialized countries where babies wear diapers almost continuously from birth. Subsequently, she raised her own children with minimal use of diapers, and eventually began to share her approach with other mothers and caregivers — initially through Internet-based parenting support groups and eventually through her book and website.[3]

Prior publications introducing Western parents to this ancient practice include the booklet Conscious Toilet Training, by Laurie Boucke (1979), book Trickle Treat: Diaperless Infant Toilet Training Method, by Laurie Boucke (1991), a pamphlet entitled Elimination Timing, by Natec (1994), and the more extensive Infant Potty Training: A Gentle and Primeval Method Adapted to Modern Living, by Laurie Boucke (2000). Boucke was influenced by an Indian friend who taught her how mothers in India care for babies without diapers, and she adapted it to fit her Western lifestyle. Boucke later co-produced an in-depth DVD entitled Potty Whispering: The Gentle Practice of Infant Potty Training (2006) and co-authored articles for medical journals.[4]

While the terms elimination communication and infant potty training have become synonymous, many caregivers who practice EC do not consider it to be a form of “training,” per se. EC is viewed primarily as a way to meet the baby’s present needs and to enhance attachment and communication in general. In that sense, EC is often likened to breastfeeding. “Toilet mastery is, of course, an inevitable consequence,” writes Bauer, “Yet it’s no more the goal of Natural Infant Hygiene than weaning is the goal of breastfeeding.” (2001, p. 217)

Today, one often hears the terms natural infant hygiene, infant potty training, “nappy free” and “elimination communication” used synonymously.

The main components of EC are timing, signals, cueing, and intuition.

Timing

Timing refers to identifying the infant’s natural timing of elimination. Newborns tend to urinate every 10–20 minutes, sometimes very regularly, which makes timing extremely useful. Older babies may still be very regular, or may vary in timing based on when they have last eaten or slept. As infants get older, the time between eliminations will increase. By six months, it is not uncommon for babies to go an hour or more without urinating while awake (babies, like adults, rarely urinate during a deep sleep). Timing varies radically for defecation, as some infants may have several bowel movements a day, while others may only have one every few days. Parents report that some babies as young as three months will appear to hold all their bowel movements until they are held in a particular squat position, as long as this is offered regularly enough. [11] Parents also offer the potty at various times according to routine, e.g. after a feed, after waking, just before bath or bed. [12] In the west, infant potty training historically relied on timing as the main method of training. [13] [14]

Signals

Signals are the baby’s way of informing a caregiver of an elimination need. Some babies signal very clearly from the beginning, while others may have very subtle signals, or no signal at all. These signals vary widely from one infant to another, and include a certain facial expression, a particular cry, squirming, a sudden unexplained fussiness, as well as others. Signals are most effectively observed without diapers for the first couple of weeks of starting elimination communication[15]. Babies who are nursing will often start delatching and relatching repeatedly when they need to eliminate. For defecation, many babies will grunt or pass gas as a signal. As babies get older their signals become more conscious and babies often point to, or look at, a caregiver or potty to indicate need. Older babies can learn a gesture or baby sign for “potty”. Later they may learn a word as part of their early acquisition of language.[16][17]

Cueing

Cueing consists of the caregiver making a particular sound or other cue when the baby is in an appropriate place to urinate or defecate, in order to develop two-way communication. At first, the caregiver can make the cueing sound when the baby is eliminating, to develop an association. Once the association is established, the cue can be used to indicate to the baby that he or she is in an appropriate potty place. This is especially useful for infants who may not recognize public toilets or unfamiliar receptacles as a “potty.” Common sound cues include “psss psss” for urination, and “hmm hmm” (grunting) for defecation. Older babies (late starters) may respond better to more word-like cues. Cues do not have to be auditory; the act of sitting on the potty itself can serve as a cue, or the sign language for “toilet” can be a cue. The American Sign Language sign for “toilet” involves forming a hand into the letter “T” (a fist with the thumb inserted between the first and middle fingers) and shaking the hand side to side from the wrist. [18]

 Intuition

Intuition refers to a caregiver’s unprompted thought that the baby may need to eliminate. Although much intuition may simply be subconscious awareness of timing or signals, many parents who practice EC find it an extremely reliable component.

After Reading this I realized that Elimination Communication isn’t about early potty training its a choice in the diaper world. Just like cloth vs disposable we now have moms choosing to go way natural, and thats great!

I asked a mom named Ellee Owen who does EC part time with her Beautiful daughter.

This is what she had to say:

  • Letjoy

    • What made you decided to give EC a try?

  • Ellee Owen

    • I had heard a little bit about it through various blogs.. and one day as Brynnley was sitting in the bumbo clearly pooping I thought why NOT put her on the toilet? One less dirty diaper to wash. Once I started watching her, it just seemed kind of natural.

  • Letjoy

    • I get you can tell when she is pooping but how do you know when she is peeing?

  • Ellee Owen

    • She makes a weird face… and kind of stops what shes doing for a second. I’m not the best at catching her but when I do she LOVES going on her potty. Last night I missed though and she peed all over her floor and started clapping..it was pretty cute

  • Letjoy

    • Do you use a “potty” or just hold her over the toliet?

  • Ellee Owen

    • We started on the toilet and just recently bought her a little frog potty that she is in LOVE with. She will just sit there and clap.

  • Letjoy

    • How long have you been doing EC? What age did you start your daughter on it.

  • Ellee Owen

    • I don’t even remember..maybe when she was 2 or 3 months? So we’ve been doing it for about 6 months?

  • Letjoy

    • Wow. do you use diapers at all?

  • Ellee Owen

    • We still use diapers! We’re not nearly good enough to go without. Its kinda just as we notice shes about to go we put her on the potty. I’d like to start being more dedicated with it.

  • Letjoy

    • What did your husband think when you told him you wanted to try EC?

  • Ellee Owen

    • I think he just kinda thought it was another one of my “crazy things.” But once he realized it was one less poopy diaper we had to wash he was down with it!

  • Letjoy

    • What does your extended family think about it?

  • Ellee Owen

    • No one really knows about it.. my mom is really the only one. We’ve learned our views are pretty different from the rest of the families, so we keep to ourselves. When shes at relatives house we just keep her in diapers the whole time.

  • Letjoy

    • When you started did you just take off the diaper and went for it? How did you start?

  • Ellee Owen

    • Pretty much… it was just “oh look, I think shes gonna go potty”. So we’d put her on the toilet. Now she has some nakey times during the day. but otherwise she’s still in diapers.

  • Letjoy

    • How does your daughter seem to be responding to it? What does she seem to like better diapers or no diapers?

  • Ellee Owen

    • Defiantly no diapers! She HATES diapers.

  • Letjoy

    • What are some of the benefits that you have noticed since starting EC?

  • Ellee Owen

    • Less diapers to wash!! And I’ve noticed I’m more in tune with what she needs and wants. I feel like this has helped me learn her queues way more. More then just potty queues too.

Thank you to Ellee for sharing your experience with EC with my readers and I.

Wanting the best for our babies is a natural thing for a mother. I first thought that people who did EC were kinda extreme and weird but now I have found a whole new respect for them. I tip my hat off to you EC mamas out there.

Please if you have comments on Elimination Communication or use EC please share in the comments below.

Happy Parenting 🙂